Good Girl by Design

When I realised how deeply my Good Girl was intertwined with my Human Design, my stomach fell out of my ass.

Hi, I’m Emmy. I’m a former Good Girl Projector, and I’m here to show you how to kick the Good Girl Habit through your HD.

What is a Good Girl, you ask?

• Someone who overgives, bends over backwards, and essentially becomes a human pretzel so they are loved, safe, and wanted.

• The person who holds the family together, the friend group therapist and emotional glue of the workplace that regulates eveeryyyboddyyyy else, to their own detriment (no fucking wonder you’re burnt out).

• She feels selfish for taking any time for herself, doesn’t ask for help despite carrying 12 bags and a toddler, and is mortified if the house, god forbid, gets messy.

• Good Girls are often parentified children and eldest daughters, the only female sibling in the order who is thrust to the front and into a caretaking role. Swallow your tongue, be polite, don’t be too much - heard it before, yes?

There’s another layer to this most people aren’t talking about. How the Good Girl emerges by design.
You’re moving through life like a cooch that’s been dry shaved.
You’re the only one who knows it, yet the energy gives you away.
You’re prickly, uncomfortable and hiding it. Whilst it does the job, it’s not great.

I’m not saying being in your design will make you as smooth as a dolphin, but it makes it easier to glide through life while living as your true self.

• Projectors act like Generators, desperately trying to keep up with the pack whilst killing themselves in the process. They get called lazy, know-it-alls and even attention whores (we are meant to be seen and recognised by the right people!). It’s fucking rough.

• Manifestors who’ve been good all their lives? Ooooh, there’s volcanic rage itching to get out, but no, expressing any anger wouldn’t be polite. I’ll take a migraine or autoimmune condition instead, thank you very much.

• Manifesting Generators who are meant to pivot and be multi-faceted? Forced to pick a lane and endure monotony after a lifetime of being called flaky and inconsistent.

When you start deconditioning your Good Girl, life changes. Suddenly you’re the Generator who no longer lets people drain your vital lifeforce energy. You’re a Reflector who is the canary in the coal mine; the moment the environment starts making you feel icky, muddy and stagnant - you’re no longer internalising it.

Shut up, Emmy, and take me to the waitlist

I’ve been in my 2/4 Projector HD experiment for a few years now, and as I’ve deconditioned:

• I left teaching. The school day and constant human interaction left me drained and incredibly bitter. I created my soul-led business, where I have incredible clients, we get amazing results working together, and there’s much more time for rest.

• I met a wonderful partner, and we live together (3/5 Man Gen). He gives me space to decompress without taking it personally. He knows my hermit time is non-negotiable and welcomes me back with a smooch when I’m ready.

• I’ve let go of the notion I need to work from a place of structure. As I’m writing this, I’m in my dressing gown, on a recliner with my dog curled up next to me. I work from bed. I take calls in a Pickle Rick Oodie. Being comfortable and relaxed makes me a better practitioner, rather than forcing myself to sit at a desk in a pencil skirt that cuts off my blood supply.

There’s so much more. I can’t wait to share it with you. If you’ve been reading my content and getting called out (hello, gate 51 of shock and initiation, lol), then welcome to the clerb.

Join the waitlist below to get your hands on Good Girl by Design,
a PDF that details how these patterns emerge through your HD and how to start shifting them.